How to rebuild strength and confidence after kids (and feel good naked)
Ep. 98 of All Figured Out Podcast
How to rebuild strength and confidence after kids (and feel good naked)
If you’ve ever felt like your body changed overnight after having kids—you’re not alone. The aches, the weakness, the overwhelm of figuring out where to even start again? Totally normal. And totally workable.
In this episode of All Figured Out, Andrea sits down (in person!) with her trainer and friend Shayan Vaghayenegar, founder of Strength Connected, to talk about what it actually takes to feel strong and confident again after babies. And yes—we talk about looking good naked.
Here’s what you’ll take away:
1. Strength after kids starts with mindset, not burpees
Shayan reminds us that you don’t need to "snap back" or hit the gym seven days a week. You need patience, realistic expectations, and movement that supports your actual life. It’s not about punishment—it’s about rebuilding.
2. Your 20s approach won’t serve you now
Once upon a time, you could spin every day and shed five pounds in a week. That’s just not the phase you’re in anymore—and that’s okay. Parents have full lives and full stress buckets. Movement now needs to work with your life, not against it.
3. Start with where you are—not where you used to be
Shayan’s coaching model is all about assessing where your body is right now—then building a personalized plan that evolves with you. Whether that starts with 20-second planks or split squats, the point is to start small and build consistently.
4. Personalized fitness is different from personal training
Andrea shares her own experience working with Shayan’s team at Strength Connected: real coaching, thoughtful programming, and the flexibility to work out when it works for you. It’s not 1:1 personal training—and that’s the beauty of it.
5. Strength is physical, mental, emotional, and relational
This episode isn’t just about workouts—it’s about how strength shows up in parenting, partnerships, and how you move through hard seasons. You’ll leave feeling grounded, motivated, and way less alone.
Try Strength Connected’s Personalized Coaching Kickstarter: Sign up here for $74/week
Follow Shayan: @strengthconnected
Learn more: strengthconnected.com
About Andrea Barr, host of All Figured Out
Andrea is a certified career and life coach for parents. Through her coaching, she supports parents in finding better work-life rhythms so they can continue to grow personally and professionally without sacrificing family time.
Connect with Andrea via Instagram here.
