146. Why FOMO hits so much harder once you have kids
This episode was inspired by and Instagram story I shared about skipping a dinner party I really wanted to go to and how I KNEW before the photos came out, that I’d made the right call.
So many of you reached out wanting more about this topic that I had to record an episode as fast as I could.
We're talking about FOMO: what it actually is, why it gets so much heavier and more layered once you become a parent, and the three questions I ask myself — and my clients — before deciding if something's a hell yeah or a "not right now."
In this episode, we cover:
(00:00) Intro
(04:10) What we actually mean when we say "FOMO"
(06:41) FOMO as a career coach: the career you might've had before kids
(09:10) Why FOMO and time are inextricably connected
(10:10) FOMO before kids vs. FOMO after kids
(15:20) Your time away from kids "quota" — actual, and the psychological one you invent
(16:54) FOMO and finances: what you're really risking
(17:34) "If you say yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
(19:42) What actually triggers FOMO
(22:09) How to work with FOMO: creating a rhythm
(31:21) Checking your ego vs. your soul
(32:37) Commit and don't look back — why regret isn't allowed here
(34:53) How to prevent it: choosing wisely
(37:56) The 3 questions: factors, focus, and options
KEY TAKEAWAY
Before you say yes or no to anything, ask: what are the factors surrounding this? What am I focusing on right now? And what are my options beyond just "go or don't go"? Then commit, and don't look back — you're allowed to learn from a decision, you're never required to regret it.
